Puberty – Boys
Puberty is known in Islamic law as al-bulugh, or Tamyeez,
(coming of age as a man and woman). There are signs of puberty (bulugh):
Discharging semen as a result of wet dreams, known as
Appearance of hair around the pubic area is a sign of puberty.
If a person sees that even without wet dreams, he or she has attained
puberty. This may happen at the age of thirteen or fourteen, and parents
should inform girls and boys about these signs.
Allah (SWT) states: "But when the children among you come
of age, let them also ask for permission, as do those senior to them in age..."
When the child reaches puberty, parents should explain to
him/her that there are rules for their conduct and wellbeing and that he/she
becomes fully accountable for his/her deeds in front of Allah (SWT). It is first
and foremost the responsibility of the parents to carry this message to the
The child should also be informed that if he has a sexual
dream, he does not have to take a bath (ghusul) unless he sees or feels wetness
in his clothes or sheets due to sperm ejaculation in the case of the boy, or
vaginal discharge in the case of the girl.
Puberty – Girls
Girls reach puberty and adulthood when they experience the
above signs. However, they have a fourth sign, that is, menstruation (hayd).
Whenever a girl experiences it, she is a woman even if she is 12 years old. At
that time, the Qalam (the pen of responsibilities) begins to flow and to record
the deeds of the servant, good or bad.
It is interesting that in the western world the case is the
reverse when the person comes of age, he or she is allowed to do things, which
are detrimental to his or her well being. They are licensed to read, watch, and
listen to so-called adult material, as if when one is an adult it is time to be
When a juvenile reaches the age of puberty in Islam he or
she should be careful about anything he or she does or says.
When the girl is about nine years old, her parents should
inform her that the first time she sees blood (menstruation), she becomes
accountable for her acts and the worship acts prescribed on the Muslim women are
also prescribed on her.
When the girl does not see any more blood at the end of her
menses, she should perform ghusul.
Pre-marital sex is fornication (zina). Pre-marital sex is
absolutely forbidden in Islam, no matter whether it is with a girlfriend or a
Allah says: Do not go near adultery, surely it is an
indecency, and an evil way of fulfilling sexual urge]. (17:32)
The punishment for pre-marital sex
According to Sharia:
If an unmarried man and an unmarried woman are found guilty
of fornication (zina) their punishment will be a hundred whips each to man and
And those who accuse chaste women and do not bring four
witnesses to testify - punish them with eighty lashes and do not ever accept
their testimony; and it is they who are the wicked. [Al-Noor :4]